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Going From Chatting Online to A Real Date

Jenny May 04 dating, true love Comments Off

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You met her online several weeks ago, and you just can’t get enough of chatting with her through emails and on the phone. She is thinking, “I have been talking to him for quite a while now. Will I ever get to meet him and see if he is my soulmate?”

When it’s time to graduate from the finding true love on the free online dating service and pay some real money for an actual date, you want to make sure you find your soulmate at the right restaurant, at the right time, dressed in the right clothes … and that you both look just like the pictures you’ve sent.

  • Talk together about the perfect place to meet. For both of you to stay safe, it needs to be a public place. This will lessen the chance of attack and it will discourage early advances of a sexual nature that might be regretted later.
  • Discuss what you will wear. Casual or classy? This will help you find each other in a crowd. Knowing what the other one plans to wear will also help you determine dress code. You would feel silly if she showed up in a slinky black dress and heels, and you are in an old pair of blue jeans. Clothing also indicates expectations.
  • ·Plan the whole date. Will you just go for a walk? Will you have dinner and then go for a walk? The more clear you both are about what you will be doing outside of your online dating relationship, the more you can relax and enjoy the time you’ll have with each other.
  • Be up front about the “escape clause.” Before you meet, you both need to be honest about the fact that physical chemistry is a huge portion of finding true love. Talk about how you will communicate that in a kind way in case you don’t feel the spark that all the dating blogs talk about.
  • Be prepared to say no to sex. Studies show that people need at least 6 months to fully trust each other. It would be tragic to jump into bed with someone you met for the first time and walk away pregnant with his child or with a sexually transmitted disease (STD) she didn’t tell you about. It’s hard to wait, but finding true love is worth it.